At the point when Fabian Butler was born, his caring father Darren held him dreamed of the man he would grow up to be – how he would play football with him and show him how to box, much the same as he’d adored as a kid.
However, by age eight, the young kid from Gwent, South Wales, had lost interest in sports and told his shocked dad that he needed to dress up in his mum’s clothes. After trying everything to talk his son on his latest stage, Darren felt awkward about what his companions would think about his child’s modify personality.
Presently at age 11, Fabian performs as one of the nation’s most youthful drag queens, as to alter ego Francheska Valley – and Darren cheerfully takes him to gigs and even causes him to pick his outfits.
Father Darren said: ‘I was the opposite when I was younger. When you have your first boy, you have expectations. I used to box as a kid so I always hoped that he would grow up and want to pursue boxing. I would take him to play football with me and you could see that it wasn’t for him. When he started dressing up, I was in denial, I just thought it was kids being kids at an age like that. I just thought he was going through a phase but when I spoke to my wife about it and realised that it wasn’t a phase, I was hurt. She persuaded me to go to his first performance, I really didn’t want to go. But as soon as I saw how happy he was on stage, I could see how much it meant to him. It brought a tear to my eye and I realised he can’t live his life through my eyes. He has to live his dream, not my dreams. I am the proudest dad in the world.’
Fabian started wearing his mum’s clothes when he was only five years of age, after getting mum Rachel’s makeup and jewelry.
He’d get back home and tell his mom and dad that how he respected the garments his instructors were wearing, and sneak Rachel’s garments from her closet to try on.
His mother Rachael said: ‘It’s just normal to us – I’ve grown with him through this and we didn’t need to have a conversation about it as it was just normality. As he got older, I started buying him makeup which caused loads of disagreements between Darren and I but Fabian’s face lights up when he wears makeup.
Father Darren further added: Fabian started a football club when he was six but you could see he wasn’t happy; he much preferred his drama club and gymnastics group. When I tried to get him into boxing, he would say ‘I’m not getting my lip split’. He’s not got a bad bone in his body’.
Sometimes Darren found it hard to accept about his son Fabian makeup demands which causes a lot of chaos in the family.
His mother Rachael said: ‘When he was seven, he started wearing makeup more often and Darren would tell him to take it off which would leave Fabian very upset. It caused arguments because I would say – look how good he looks! It took a while for Darren to come round to the idea of him wearing makeup. Fabian would tell Darren that he was just doing his makeup to show him and he was so upset when Darren would tell him to take it off. Sometimes he would go and take it off but there were a lot of tears – it was frustrating for me because I could see how talented Fabian was at doing his makeup’.
Yet, when Fabian acted in front of Darren for the first time in Newbridge with his show club, it caused him to acknowledge how gifted his child was at performing.
Father Darren said: ‘He had his own act and performed Ariana Grande’s God is a Woman in front of 200 people on stage. He started a drama club when he was nine and this was his first opportunity to perform. I was really nervous about going but when I saw him performing, it brought a tear to my eye’.
Mother Rachael continued: ‘Fabian filled up with tears and said ‘I’m so glad my dad is here’. I told him to show his dad what he’s got and he went out there and gave the best performance.
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